To get the most out of counselling you need to be prepared to be a part of the interaction. Therapy is interactive so asking questions, focusing on specific themes or issues can help you to address your needs. If you feel things are going too fast or too slow then let your therapist know, so they can adjust. Thinking about the things you have shared and following through with this in your life can be hard, but change only comes when you choose.
Reading books,carrying out strategies or trying out new ways of doing things identified in your sessions are ways of supporting your process. Noticing the things that help or do not and letting your therapist know can help you both. Use your therapy outside the session by considering any insights or feelings arising. Journals, diarys or just noticing how you feel can help you to reflect. You do not need to be polite, to be a “good” client or to censor yourself in therapy. The process aims to allow you to be fully you, so asking questions, stating your needs and removing the filter allows you to get more from the session.
Create markers for change. Decide what you would like to be different and what this might look like. Evaluate this with your therapist and review as you go, so that you can notice the changes you want to see.
Book your appointments at times you can make and allow some space around them to consider what you want from the session and to process things afterwards. This is your time, so make the best use you can.
Decide if you want to get the business part sorted at the start such as booking, payment or form filling. Let your therapist know if you need to talk about issues between you. This can be an important part of the work, so share your feelings about your therapist with them.